We all deserve and expect honesty in relationships. However, thanks to ‘cyberville’ cheating has become multifaceted and easy. Today, cheating need not mean physical relations only-its cheating if one deletes texts which he/she does not want their spouse to read. A cheater lives a life of deception and relies on ‘tricks’. If you suspect your partner of cheating, then you are a victim of cheating-and a victim can only survive by working on gaps in the relationship or by ending it. In any case, the first step is to catch the cheating spouse or boyfriend on his/her cell phone or in the act. As painful as the outcome might be, let us take a look at some ways and signs of a cheating spouse.
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1. Changes in behavior
One of the main signs of cheating spouse is behavioral changes. Your partner might suddenly start working late hours. S/he may take frequent ‘business trips’ or might have to go to the ‘office’ at odd hours. S/he might even take up an activity that keeps them away even on weekends. You might even notice changes in your sexual relationship as well-it could either be diminished or s/he might take an active and renewed interest in you.
Inattention is another sign you might notice-a cheater will not listen when her/his spouse or partner is talking. This is because of the fact that the other person is constantly on their mind. They cannot wait to get back to the other person-whether it is texting them or meeting with them. Their mind will be elsewhere all the time. Do not be surprised if your partner starts openly flirting with another person at parties-something that s/he has not done before.
Signs of anger and irritation-Another common signs of cheating are that your partner is easily provoked; anything you say is misconstrued and you often find him/her blaming you for their problems. Your partner might also be easily irritated or angry when he/she wants to make plans with the other person but you constantly get in the way.
Lies and more lies- Often to hide one lie, your cheating partner may tell lies after lies.
2. Electronic hints
Your spouse might start deleting messages and emails. S/he might become extra sensitive about their cell phone. They might set a password to it or might keep it with them 24/7 so that you do not have access to it.
Monitor cell phone usage
Today, affairs cannot exist without the cell phone. Monitor your partner’s usage. This is an easy and inexpensive way of uncovering an affair. It is also rock solid proof and leaves little to no room for excuses, explanation and lies. A little time, discipline and patience is all you need to monitor cell phone based or emotional affairs. Unfortunately, hacking into cell phones to hear conversations can be technically difficult and also expensive. Scanners are one way of doing it but scanners do not work if your partner is 20 miles away from you.
Spy software or key logging software
This is the software you need to install on your cheating partner’s computer or smartphone. This method is a foolproof way to catch a cheating partner but for this you need access to the said device. You can enlist the services of a hacker but many of these people can actually scam you off your money. They promise to give you your partner’s passwords in less than 24 hours and can charge anywhere between $25 and $250 for these services. SpyBubble is a great spyware that can help you catch a cheating spouse on cell phone. The downside to this is you need access to your partner’s phone and if they have set a password, it can be difficult getting in.
To catch a cheating husband on WhatsApp
Use Whatsapp Web. Scan your partner’s whatsapp QR code on your home computer .This will allow you to read all their messages and texts without their knowledge. The downside to this trick is that they might log out from all machines if they get to know they are being tracked. You also need access to their mobile phone beforehand to scan the QR code.
3. Use location tracking
Place location tracking stick in his/her car. SPY TEC tracking portable device is one such device. However, it needs to be charged every few days. You can get live updates as to where your partner is at all times. It will help if you know the distance between home and office- so any extra mileage will be a sign that he/she is driving elsewhere to meet their lover.
This is a slightly expensive method to catch a cheating spouse or boyfriend. Announce that you have to go away for a few days; check into a motel or go to a friend’s place. Install hidden cameras before you go. Your cheating spouse will not resist the temptation to meet up with their lover.
5. Send flowers anonymously
This is a sneaky way to find out if your partner is cheating on you. Send flowers to your spouse/boyfriend at work. Do not sign the card-let it be anonymous. If your spouse mentions that he received flowers at work, he is probably not cheating. If he hides this fact, then it is likely he is.
There is a great tool called Spokeo search engine that can help you find hidden profiles your spouse/boyfriend uses to acquire dates on social media or dating sites. Some results need you to pay.
7. Use voice activated audio recording tools
These are tiny devices that record audio/voice. They provide continuous recording for more than 15 hours before having to be recharged and are tiny enough to be placed anywhere-such as your partner’s bag, workplace or vehicle.
8. Check for clues in all the right places
Look for clues in the cheating partner’s pockets, wallets, mobiles, purses and even the trashcans. You might find hastily scribbled phone numbers, hotel or restaurant bill receipts or receipts to expensive purchases which you never reeived. Also check the shelves in their closet-especially the top most shelves. In office, check the trash cans for flirtatious notes scribbled on torn paper in wastepaper bins. Be thorough- you never know when you will find a photograph, hotel receipt, airplane ticket, or love notes. People having affairs often leave clues at workplace thinking it is safer there.
9. Check his/her credit card statements
A cheating spouse might pay using cash but sometimes, one might get careless. Check the card statement summary to get information. You might see gift items, hotel room bookings etc. You can also call the credit card company to get details about last 12 month transactions.
It is never easy living with the uncertainty of whether or not a partner is cheating on you. These methods listed above can help to an extent and can put your mind at ease. Good luck!
Great article! Thank you for the guidelines. This would be very helpful.