So, you have a crush on a girl in your school/place of work/ or in your neighborhood! May be you are feeling too shy to ask her out. You might fear rejection or even think that she already has a boyfriend. You do not even know whether the best way to ask her out is over text, or on Facebook. So how do you go about it? Here are 11 easy ways to ask a girl out.
1. Get introduced first
The first step in asking a girl out is to get to know her. She will certainly not go out with you if she does not know you. So, ask a common friend or neighbor to introduce you. Be spontaneous when you do so- you do not want her to run away by appearing too pushy. Take your time- it is important you get to know her nature. If she is too shy, chances are she will say no to going out. If possible, you can go out in a group first before asking her out on a date. Do make sure you wait a bit before asking her out after being introduced. This is necessary to give you some time to assess her feelings about you. You can always call her and talk on the phone ; but do not ask her out immediately in the first conversation itself.
2. Show her your fun-yet-caring side
One of the cool ways to ask a girl out is to get her interested in you. Show her that you have a fun side but are also caring.Talk about subjects or hobbies she may be interested in. Take the time to find out what she dislikes.
3. First date need not be chatty
One of the best ways to ask a girl out when you are just getting to know her is to take her out for a movie. It helps you avoid talking too much, especially if you are nervous. You certainly do not want to end up saying something you would regret later. A movie is a perfect way to break the tension and make both of your feel comfortable.
4. Always make her feel safe
Choose a safe place to meet up so she will be more likely to say yes. For example, a public park is a good place to set up the first date. If you have her phone number you could send her a text to ask her to meet you in the park. Since there are likely to be people and children playing around, you two can walk around and chat a bit.
5. Plan the logistics properly
So many first dates end in disasters because they are inadequately planned. If you plan to ask a girl out over text or on Facebook, make sure you tell her that you drive and have a license or would be arranging for the logistics. It is also important to find out first if she is free on the evening in question. Send her a text asking if she would like to hangout. Then make the necessary arrangements.
6. Use gentle persuasion
A shy girl might not jump and say yes the moment you ask her out. Sometimes, she might need some gentle persuasion. If she smiles and blushes when she talks to you, then it is likely she is attracted to you. If not, it may be that she already has a boyfriend or does not like you as much. It helps to find out this important piece of information first.
7. Wait for the correct moment
Be patient. Sometimes, she could be having some personal situation that might require her to say no to going out. In any case, be patient and choose the right moment. Be natural and use your gut feeling to help you out.
8. Be yourself
Girls like romantic men who are unafraid to show their feminine side, are chivalrous, kind and good in communication. While you can try to be all these things-it is equally important to be yourself rather than trying to pretend being someone you are not. This will put you both at ease.
9. Be confident
Girls like confident men. So look her in the eyes when you ask her out. This is the reason why asking a girl out should be done in person rather than doing it online on Facebook, or through a text message. Portray confidence without being cocky.
10. Let her do the talking
Avoid talking too much about yourself as she might find you boring. Ask her questions so she opens up. Take care not to make her feel interrogated. Do not be afraid to pay her compliments; just be genuine about it. If she likes poetry, read up on some good poems to quote or write her a verse. Whatever you do, just be honest which will make you likeable.
11. Remain calm and happy
Even if she refuses, smile. Ask her the reason why she is saying no. Chances are she could be having a genuine reason. So make sure you use the correct body language. You will certainly not win brownie points if you lose your temper. Avoid showing her your fears, insecurity, anger or feelings of jealousy. This is essential as these qualities can be a big turn off for women.
Finally-be courageous. Even in this era of equal rights, it is still usually the guy who must do the asking out. If you are waiting for her to make the first move-forget it! There is a very small percentage of girls who would do the asking out. So be courageous and ask. You will be glad you did, later!