The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. If you have been in a committed and loving relationship for a long time, but are single now, it is quite natural that you feel ‘there’s something wrong with me!’ However, that is not the case. Millions of people are terrified of living alone and being single and end up taking wrong decisions, settling for less in the process. Know that singlehood is the celebration of the most enduring relationship of all-the one with yourself. Let us elevate singleness to new heights with some easy ways:
1. Believe that your presence is desired
This is the quintessential ingredient for a great evening when you are single in college, after a breakup, or in your 20s or 40s. There are so many positives of being single- you can do what you want not having to worry whether your partner likes it or not. Once you desire your presence, you won’t need anyone else. You can clean your home while blasting your favorite songs, not have to shave your legs, or stay in your PJs watching reruns of your favorite comedy shows while eating your favorite snacks without feeling guilty about it!
2. Know that life is short
Life is too short to worry, yearn and keep searching. Just be. Enjoy every moment. Stay mindful. Be grateful. Love is beautiful, wonderful and even a sacred thing but until it arrives, give yourself the permission to thrive! When you are healthy and happy with yourself, people are more likely to find you attractive as well.
3. Keep healthy friendships
The key to enjoy being single is to have great friendships-with both men and women. Call up old friends, meet up for coffee or lunch. While you are at it, why not join a class and make friends there? You will learn some amazing skills and even make great, likeminded friends in the process.
4. Focus on quality
Singlehood does not mean you do not date and that you should only sit at home waiting for Mr. or Ms. Right to come along. These days, it is very easy to date thanks to user friendly dating apps and websites. Your focus however should be on quality. If the first date does not go well, there is no need to continue seeing that person again. One connected conversation is better than a dozen disconnected chats.
5. Do not make sex as the priority
Just because you date does not mean you have to jump into the sack. The last thing you want is a one night stand. Keep the dates restricted to getting to know the other person. Establish these rules early on as they will protect you and keep you from making wrong decisions or ending up with complications.
6. Get creative
The best way to enjoy being single for guys and girls is to don your creative hats and create something new. Take up a hobby and do something you are passionate about. Explore different options. You will soon find an activity that you are amazing at and which will make you thrive.
7. Find your purpose
Life is much bigger than having a relationship; it is certainly not defined by one’s marital status. Each of us here has limited time to fulfill a purpose. So go out, explore your options where you can be of help to someone. Volunteer your time for teaching kids’ soccer or math, or read to elderly patients at the local old age home. Sign up for community work at your church. Serve food at a soup kitchen. There are so many things to do – you only need to find your purpose.
8. Know that you will survive this breakup
Every interesting man and woman has survived a broken heart. Know that you are not alone. Do not let this phase define you.There are many positives of being single- you need to keep telling yourself those. Print out these ‘enjoy being single quotes’ given here to reinforce them. Lonely and being alone is much better than being lonely with someone around.
9. Know that the Universe wants the best for you
Solace and understanding are available at your disposal when you need them. The Universe loves you so much and wants only the best for you. So ask, believe and you shall receive it. Write down the qualities of your potential partner and meditate upon them. Soon the Universe will make sure that they manifest. Stay happy and hopeful!
10. Singlehood is catching on!
Singleness is not fatal. There are a lot of people in relationships who wish they would rather be single. So accept yourself first-there is no powerful aphrodisiac than self acceptance. Keep this in mind and soon you will be on the way to great relationship.
Try these 10 easy ways to enjoy being single.